I think gratitude and resting and waiting is a good idea, May. They are boundaries you might want to put in place that just aren't practically possible right now. There might be things that you both want - like a joint conversation with the MC - that just aren't on the cards. Cutting yourself and the situation some slack sounds like a good idea.
But I also think it is a good idea to make decisions based on what is best for you, and what you want, without second guessing what your H will do or say or make of it. You know him, sure, but basing your own actions on what you imagine he might say or do next is fruitless at best, and manipulative - even if meant with the best heart - at worst.
