M, I don´t comment on threads often but no, you most certainly should not ask her if this is what she really wants or anything similar to that. It seems LH is right and if you just filed to get a reaction or to take back control, that is going to backfire as everyone here warned you about. They've seen this happen before on these forums.
Me: 38 Stbxw: 35 No kids Mini bd: February 6, 2019 ONS confirmed Sept 7, 2019 Told her to move out: September 8, 2019 W moved out: September 28, 2019 Divorce filed by me: September 23, 2019