You're right there is a cycle, but I think it's slowly changing, slowwwwllllyyyy.
And, I was thinking the exact same thing about the responses to my H's same old "words." Any suggestions?
Yesterday S and H went fishing in the morning, I went grocery shopping and to Wal-mart. I like taking my S with me grocery shoppping, etc., but to not have him with me is a real treat. It felt sooo good.
SS stopped over and made the comment "I hope I don't have stomach problems like Dad" I said YOU know what they're from don't you? SS said yeah, drinking. H wanted to make sure I knew how much he had to drink on Friday and also told his S20..which is a first.
Yesterday H was like a caged lion. At one point in the afternoon, told me he was leaving, couldn't take it anymore, to go drink or whatever, I said "bye". H then went downstairs to watch TV--our cable was out since Friday night and came back on early afternoon yesterday.
Came back up a little later, said "you can buy us hamburgers before the storm hits again" and then sat in the living room to watch TV. I started to make supper as I had taken food out and H asked me if we were going for hamburgers and I said "don't have any cash" and was going to make chicken, H said okay let's have that. After we ate dinner, H put on his shoes, his hat and grabbed his keys and said "bye" and I said "bye" Of course, our S thought he was going to go with and said to his Dad "I'll just jump in the truck" and went outside with him. When I didn't hear the truck start looked out the garage and H was standing at the back of his truck and S was riding his bike, next thing I know H is out raking the gravel out of our lawn from the storm.
We had horrendous weather this weekend and after tornado warning was over last night which wasn't too far from our house, H said let's go look and and then you can buy me ice cream. I said I just bought five gallons today.
S went to bed early and so I thought H and I could fool around a little. Stared to approach H, he kind of pushed me away and said "I'm going to bed" and I said okay.
Five minutes later I hear from downstairs "I need a back scratch" so I went down scratched his back and bleep, bleep, and he said "that's not my back" so I quit and then, well...
I was on my way back upstairs, said goodnight to H and H says "you mean just like that" and I said you're invited up here whenever you want to come.
I got up when he got up this morning, met him the bathroom he asked me what I was doing up so early, I gave him a kiss and a hug and got ready to get on my treadmill.
There were more positives this weekend then there were negatives and actually for the last couple of weeks. I'm going to start focussing on the positives rather than what H is doing wrong.
