My husband tried to give me a hug today when he left. I refused it. Did I do the right thing? I felt like it was a sympathy hug because although I didn't cry, my eyes did tear up. He didn't say anything. He just walked out of the house. Now I'm second guessing myself. Should I have said something like " as long as you're still seeing the OW , you can't expect to be affectionate with me" I'm second guessing myself.
Any advice?
You did fine refusing his hug. Nothing wrong with that. You are right, if he's seeing OW then he should expect ZERO affection from you. But don't TELL him that, show him through your actions (such as refusing a hug).
WAS's do this thing I call the "WAS hug" after BD. They hug you from the side instead of the front, and/ or pat your back like you're a distant relative they haven't seen in a while I HATE those pity hugs! After getting those from my WAS for a while I just quit trying to hug her. Then when she started coming in for hugs I turned it around and gave HER the WAS hug, LOL!
