I feel KTO will fold and look week if WW flashes her eye lids.
He needs to do it because he sees the benefit - but not retract.
First, I can't really fold because in my state the separation is meaningless. It basically says you are separated and here is the agreed-upon parenting time/schedule, proves you are living separately (asks for addresses) and asks who is paying for the home and child (me). No division of finances, no assets, nothing else can be included. If I decide later to go through with D, that is an entirely different process. They usually don't even look at the separation agreement when you D. In my state, only at-fault divorces can have legal separations so they are rare but adultery is an at-fault D. Also, in my state, you don't even need a lawyer t do this. They have put all the forms online for you to fill out. Once that happens, notarize it, send to the state and pay $150 to file the separation agreement (I wouldn't be able to take this step until courts pen but I can have it notarized to stop the clock before we hit 5 years).
Here are the reasons why I want to do it, in order.
1. It time stamps the separation so that the courts one day could see we separated before the 5 years. 2. It allows me to feel like I have some control of where our relationship is heading (right now I am in limbo and I hate it). I know I can't control, her, but I can control where our relationship is headed. 3. Although some agree, and some don't, I think they will show her that I am not sitting here waiting for her to make up her mind. That I am starting to make up mine. That she knows what my expectations are and she has done nothing to work towards them. So I will move forward the only way can...seperation. Remember, D is impossible right now and probably will be for months. This may or may not help her to wake up. But that is not the main reason I am doing it. I need to time stamp his so I don't pay her for years and years!
