I'm glad you're saw the light on the haircut. It's like video chats with kids in the background. Everyone single, and many couples, are in the same boat--it's no haircut or a self-haircut until the lockdown ends. It's natural to keep thinking of ways our ex's are "essential". They usually aren't. We can become stronger.
I'm with you on D to protect your assets. I'm worried about the "wakeup call" motive, because based on self-preservation the right move is to proceed even if she did "wake up". Nothing stops you from reconciling while and after the D completes and then remarrying with a whole new 5-year clock--there's even poetry given how she shattered this marriage in Relationship 2.0 being symbolized by a whole new marriage.
