Affair Fog-LRT 3

[MrBrside]

That is what my W is always doing. "Can you do this for our D? How is our D doing? Can you tell her I love her? Do you want me to get groceries for her? Can I drop her off her scooter/toys for her to use?" etc. etc. etc.

Because you allow it to happen. It comes back to self respect. If you allow it to happen, she will take advantage. Even if you did stand up to her, she will still prod and poke hoping to find a chink in the armour or for you to let your guard down. Decide what you want / will do and stick to it.. Anything else, dont rise to it.

Sandi wrote a great piece on this, where she explains the WW will use the LBS as babysitter, plumber, handyman etc etc - because the LBS allows it. = zero respect.

Lastly, she did ask if I needed a haircut because my hair is getting so long with businesses being closed. I am debating it. I know you would say no but she has all of the clippers, equipment, etc. I am thinking to let her do it then ask her to leave. I am not seeing any other ppl so no one else can do it and I beginning online teaching and have numerous meetings with my supervisor/bosses and I don't want to look like a scrub. I know you all would say no but what other choice do I have? I am not shaving my head if that is what you are thinking...lol. These are different times. Normally I would just get a haircut somewhere but I can't do that

In the 12 months since my WW left ( 29th March 2019) i have never asked her for a single thing.. Not one.. She fired me as her partner - if my employee fired me, would i go back and ask for help ? would i help them if they asked me ? hell no.
Why is this any different. If your wife had died, you wouldnt have that fallback option for a haircut would you? if your WW wasnt cake eating and ran off to another country / state with OM, you wouldnt have the option would you ? Yes its the easy option.. But you need to start standing on your own two feet.. Ladies dont like needy males. This is your chance to stand tall... so do it.