The more you draw attention to what he's doing, the more determined he will be to continue doing it. The less said, the better. Now, if he begins packing up the inside of your house, now I think I would have to call him on that.
So he started loudly packing inside tonight, but it seems like only in his man cave. I refuse to give him the satisfaction of looking in the garage much to my own detriment! I needed something out of the freezer and changed my whole meal plan just to avoid going out there! I can be stubborn. Hahah!!! But I will look soon in the interest of protecting myself.
Originally Posted by job
Stay safe and above else try to stay healthy. Leave your man/child to his packing...I would bet money on the fact that he won't be able to find a thing when it's time for him to need something. He will swear you hid it and it will be right there in one of those boxes. It's happened before to others. Dig deeper for patience. It's a marathon, not a sprint.
Thx Job this made me laugh!!! I can TOTALLY see that happening. I feel like I’m in a strong detached place right now. The only time I get hung up is hearing the new audio cues of “I’m leaving you” with the packing and banging. But I tell myself nothing is new and there is no call to action for me. I’m finding that’s where my panic and anxiety comes from - is feeling like I’m not doing something I should be ....like he’s packing so I should be getting my stuff together!!! What for I’m not goin’ anywhere yet!!! The breathing and stopping become important in these situations.
Can I take a poll - once I do look in the garage I fully expect to see storage shelves taken down and prob mostly his work stuff packed up. How do I behave? Do I : A) say nothing / acknowledge nothing has changed B) ask where he is taking the stuff C) use this opportunity to ask about his lawyer and where the process is at D) put everything that is packed up out by the curb
