Since I got back from the walk H has been extra friendly and chatty, acting like nothing is weird. I acted normal as well. How can he think it's normal to bring up D, then not go on to explain where he is in the process of D or what he envisions once the world is back to normal? Or why he hasn't filed when he said he wouldn't wait until after Christmas? It's mind-boggling. I'm working on accepting it. I know that he isn't rational, but it again doesn't sink in fully when he seems so rational in other ways.
Hi Cardinal, I’m so sorry if I sound like a broken record about how similar our situations are. H in the span of 2 days went from asking if I wanted to share some wine, dinner etc...to going shopping for us and picking up stuff on my list (I’m at a high risk level for the virus) AND even offered to get stuff for a fam member in quarantine. When he got home he couldn’t wait to tell me a “joke” he made and referred to me boldly as his EXwife. HILARIOUS I’m still laughing. (Not) ...we don’t even have a SA. I get the anxiety that comes with seeing the rational behaviour mixed with irrational and it makes me also wonder what the heck other people are believing. Unfortunately, it doesn’t really matter...people will believe what they want. I have to constantly remind myself of that one.
You prob remember how my H has been literally harassing me to get a lawyer since month 3 I’d say. I got one over 3 weeks ago and she contacted him. What do you think happened?? CRICKETS .....nothing. It’s taking every ounce of me to not say so where’s your lawyer? When does she plan on responding? Harass him like he harassed me. Instead I say nothing because I know he’ll have some smart a$$ answer that will just upset me. Two days ago he decided he needed to be “productive” (his words) and proceeded to buy boxes and has been taking apart and packing up the garage and his bedroom ever since...and then tonight he asks me if I would like him to do extra food for my dinner. I honestly can’t keep up ...so I’ve stopped. Yes it still bugs me and hurts everyday, but I let it all go past my eyes or in one ear and out the other and just remind myself that I don’t want whoever this person is right now. I’m the prize ....just like YOU are the prize.
Originally Posted by cardinal
But this pandemic makes me even more sad and impatient.
This will sounds silly and my intention is not to make any light of the seriousness of the current situation the world and we all find ourselves in ...but I’ve kinda started to look at the past few months of my MLC H situation as a training lesson in EXTREME patience for what we are now facing globally. We must all shut down to survive. His MLC now seems like a serious game of survivor OUTWIT, OUTLAST, and OUTPLAY. As many on here advise play for yourself, not him. Protect yourself both financially but just as importantly emotionally. This situation is brutal enough without now being forced to be stuck in the same house....truthfully we couldn’t write a better movie script. Find your hobbies, make new ones, I’m huge into up-cycling right now...I love being crafty. Clean the crap outta things around your house. Garden when you can, read when you can’t. Allow this time to completely indulge one person - YOURSELF. I wish we could do that ‘wife swap’ show and just trade our Hs ....they could live together and play video games and the LBSs could live together and get on with life. You’ve got this Cardinal - just get the focus back to you.
