Good news - my mortgage refinance was approved yesterday. I was a bit nervous about my application due to all the uncertainty with banking and the housing market, but my financial situation is solid, so it looks like it's full steam ahead. This will ensure there are no roadblocks on my end to removing XH from the title of the marital property which is now mine. I'm looking into getting all the locks changed as soon as possible! I will also be able to close the existing joint bank account which will sever the final 'business' link between us. I'm very happy about the settlement progressing so quickly.
Emotionally, I'm also very happy. I don't spend much time thinking about XH or the marriage what with all this Covid-19 stuff. Not zero time, but not much time. The time I do spend isn't emotionally charged. I've stopped reading infidelity blogs and articles. Hearing my cousin's experience with the family court really shook me. She and her ex have multiple DVOs against each other, their five kids have witnessed verbal and physical abuse between them, she fears for her kids' safety when they are with their dad, and she is broke from all the legal fees after six years of fighting.
No matter how I feel about XH's infidelity and abandonment, fighting about it is not worth the risk of being stuck in such an awful situation years down the road. I'm still seeing my psychologist about once a month to keep me on track with putting this all behind me, but I'm feeling pretty close to 'meh' at this point (ten months out). As in - yeah, that happened; yeah, it hurt; but it's just another chapter of my life story now. I'm content with my life and looking forward to the future. I don't regret the past but that chapter is permanently over.
My olive branch about parenting doesn't seem to have been accepted. I haven't heard anything about starting the extended visitation schedule that XH requested six weeks ago, despite me agreeing with 90% of the request. I've heard nothing from him asking whether visitation will be affected by any lockdowns or shutdowns and what the contingency plan is. Have heard no inquiries about S2's health or how he is coping with the change in circumstances. But none of that matters! It doesn't affect me or S2 in any material or emotional way. We are happy and safe together.
In other news, I've ordered S2 a new bed as he has outgrown his cot. Any tips for getting toddlers to stay in their bed?
