Affair Fog-LRT 3

[MrBrside]

I am waiting for her to say she has ended contact with the OM. She knows that is the first step. I want to ask her if she has, or bring up in some way? Is that dumb? I would I do that in a smart way? I know I shouldn't try to control or sway her. But can't I ask so I know I just see a lot of change in her behavior already so I am trying the course of not initiating contact but remaining civil when she does.

I know you have had a rough few weeks, but seriously - You are in Lar Lar land.

You are so so fortunate to have people here spend their time trying to assist you. Sandis advice is worth more than ANY therapy could offer - she has been there, done it and now spends her free time trying to assist the LBS..

Yet i cringe when i read your replys...

Being no contact with the OM WILL NOT make happy families.. Its so obvious from your posts you are looking for that little crumb to put right all the wrongs in the past. It really doesnt work like that.

I doubt you will follow this advice, and if you do, you will probably still ignore it..

Search for the topic by Curtis - From memory its something like persistance and endurance.

Your posts are very similar to his.. He would come on here and say how he was going to do X Y and Z against the board advice.. His justification was he had searched old posts and found it worked for Mr A and Mr S - what he didnt grasp is that it worked for Mr A and S but crashed and burned for Mr C,D,E,F,G,H,I,J,K,L,M,N,O,P,Q etc etc - you get the picture. He took the smallest little thing he could turn into a positive and hoped it would apply to him.
12 months after his first post he was still in limbo, his wife had moved onto OM3, OM4 etc, ate so much cake that she would be morbidly obese - and his wife still didnt respect him - but we refused to change his mindset - and i personally feel he lost a lot of respect from the vets here because he didnt listen to them either. He never truelly grasped that you cannot control the other person - and you dont either.

You really need to ask yourself do you want to feel like you do today, yesterday and the day before in 12 or 18 months time. Unless you seriously start walking the walk, you will be in the same head mentality in 12 months time - and even if you are playing happy families with your wife, she will still be looking for the next OM - why - because neither of you have actually worked on yourselves.