B6 - I wish I could offer you more but there are so many on here with excellent experience and advice beyond what I can say as I too am still finding my way. I can say however, that you are VERY new to this. If you look back in my thread (and most others) you can read about the mistakes I made, the confusion shows with our new found situations, which brings on desperate behaviour to “bring H back to his sense”.... all I can say is that you seem very strong and on the path to self awareness which I believe is a huge asset in this new reality. I can also say that detaching does get easier. I was told this often early on and didn’t see it, but know I’m living it. He comes and goes, ignores me or talks to me and I pretend he’s fully a roommate, some guy living in my house. There will always be things that tweak a nerve or outright peeve you off but something in me has flipped and I have taken back my composure, my self esteem, my sense of humour, my interests, my family, my friends therefore MY LIFE. I can’t say I’m good 100% of the time but I try my best not to judge myself anymore either. There is no handbook for this ...we get to write our rules right now for ourselves (with awesome advice and guidance from those that have walked this before us)...keep practising detachment and my favourite - COMPASSIONATE INDIFFERENCE. You got this. (((B6)))
