After my W left yesterday, she texted me last night asking about my grandmother. She said, "I know you don't believe me but I am here for you (heart emoji, heart emoji" I just replied, "ty, I appreciate it."
This morning, she reached out to my mother again offering her to get nursing supplies for her so she could go see my grandmother (my W is a nurse and has access to masks, face shields, scrubs, etc). IIMHO, this is HUGE for my W. She respects my mother a lot and knows that she is pissed at my W. I know it sounds crazy but I bet it would prevent my W from R because she doesn't want to face my mom. It seems like she cracking the ice. Not like she is cake eating with my mother...it must be genuine and difficult for my W.
After that, my W started texting me first saying that she was sad and depressed today and then asking if I wanted her to come by while I had my online meeting. I said, "you can come to hang with my D while the meeting is happening if you wanted." I realize that I probably wasn't smart. She replied, "I don't want to interrupt her but I didn't know how long your meeting is." I said, "I don't know." So she said "okay". That was the end of it.
An hour later, she sent "how was your meeting?" I said "fine" and then she said, "what's the plan for work then?"
Lots of questions. Lots of temp checking. I'm guessing that is too much texting back and forth. I am waiting sometime before I respond and trying to keep it short.
I am waiting for her to say she has ended contact with the OM. She knows that is the first step. I want to ask her if she has, or bring up in some way? Is that dumb? I would I do that in a smart way? I know I shouldn't try to control or sway her. But can't I ask so I know I just see a lot of change in her behavior already so I am trying the course of not initiating contact but remaining civil when she does.
