Thank you LH19, kto626, neffer. As more and more has come out and W is still a WW she's been pushing me further and further away to a point where I am a lot less motivated to R. And I'm moving further away with everything - house emptied of her stuff, wedding ring off, NC.
The way W has acted - so thoughtless, selfish, continuing on talking/seeing OM it is hard to remember the person underneath who is being tortured by addiction and is acting out. W recently was telling me how much she has suffered through all this and how hard it's been on her.
I wonder whether Sandi could shed light on life after R, because I find her wayward behaviour so off-putting for the future. Does the WW go back to normal over time? Will the loving W who would do anything for me, loves me unconditionally and wouldn't dream of hurting me that I remember ever re-appear? Last time I spoke to W, (after saying how much she didn't want a divorce) she said she couldn't imagine being with any other AP than OM (how sweet..) She doesn't want a divorce but seems to be weighing up "what she will get" from R. So selfish, it really puts me off making it work with her if she's not going to look back on things like that with utter shame.
