MLC newbie

[peacetoday]

Hi

I would agree with the others
as hard as it is let it go
when someone is not totally in the relationship, we can protect ourselves
sometimes total truth may not help but I understand the need to share and open up


The more you try to get him to understand anything, the more he may get turned off

DB is more about the opposite
detaching
creating a new you
upbeat, fun, playful
focus on the kids
its more about pretend..and not ask too much of the uncommitted partner at the moment

hard ..yes very

If he has expressed a true desire to work things out and stay in the M, then MC may be helpful to work past the infidelity
If he is still on the fence and has not expressed a true desire with word and action to stay M, nothing we do will help
and many things will hurt

Hang in there...we all make mistakes on this road and yes it is so painful

so what to do with the pain
exactly what you did
share it with us, with a trusted therapist
someone who gets DB(my therapist had knowledge of Michelles work so that was helpful)
and feel the pain just sit with it and it will pass
it is grief...comes and goes..things are changing
New is scary