It’s too late now that he already got a loan from your dad, but I think given the circumstances there needs to be a boundary regarding money. It sounds like he is not responsible with money and you have to be careful to not get sucked into his bad decisions regarding finances. Anyway you could protect yourself on that front?
Don’t get on his rollercoaster. Observe his actions and do not believe his words.
What exactly do you need him to contribute? Are we talking about chores? It will be hard for you for sure, but part of dropping expectations is expecting him to behave like a normal husband who will chip in without throwing a tantrum. He sounds too emotional right now for you to discuss anything with him.
