Originally Posted by Mumin
I did it. Tonight she got the papers, and she signed immediately.
I was not super firm/stable in my voice when I was handing them over to her but said something like:
"This is what I want now. I have signed and when you sign we have 6 months till it is final."

She basically ran into the kitchen and signed (obviously adgitated/stressed). So I said arent you going to read it?
She sat down, starred at the papers and then looked up and was very sad.
I said I can talk a bit if you want but need to go shopping (of course fridge was empty after "her weekend").

Summary of convo:
W - Feels so weird.
***I understand****
Me - How do you mean weird?
W - Just that wierd. It has happend so fast.
Cant imagined how its been for you.
Me - Yes, very fast and often incredibly tough.
***Its been tough on everybody***
W - Why now?
Me - Been thinking about it for a while but in short, you're living with another man now.
****Its the best decision for me moving forward******

..Talked a bit about house.. I said I will live here until we sell it.
****No need for this talk right now******
W - Feels so very weird and tough now that we share the house. I have been tense all Weekend.
Me - Yes I understand it is tough for you. I am doing what I feel I need to do and you have chosen to be with someone else.
*** first sentence was enough****
W - It feels so weird now that I am living so close to someone new. I am so safe/comfortable with you.
Me - Yes I understand that must feel strange.
W - I can tell you want to say other things..
Not sure what she meant but at times I guess I could have been a bit more blunt However:
****Ive said everything I needed To say****
I started walking towards hallway and said I am going shopping.
W - You are sou cold (insensitive) now.
Me - I know I have to be strong during this process.
**** I would have just kept walking******
So now papers are lying in the kitchen, signed and ready for the mailbox...


I put my comments next to *****

The main theme is you were assigning a lot of blame to her. Yes the affair is on her but it's only a symptom.

Your journey is just continuing and it's going to take awhile to sink in what is happening,,

Stay strong bother!