I did it. Tonight she got the papers, and she signed immediately. I was not super firm/stable in my voice when I was handing them over to her but said something like: "This is what I want now. I have signed and when you sign we have 6 months till it is final."
She basically ran into the kitchen and signed (obviously adgitated/stressed). So I said arent you going to read it? She sat down, starred at the papers and then looked up and was very sad. I said I can talk a bit if you want but need to go shopping (of course fridge was empty after "her weekend").
Summary of convo: W - Feels so weird. ***I understand**** Me - How do you mean weird? W - Just that wierd. It has happend so fast. Cant imagined how its been for you. Me - Yes, very fast and often incredibly tough. ***Its been tough on everybody*** W - Why now? Me - Been thinking about it for a while but in short, you're living with another man now. ****Its the best decision for me moving forward******
..Talked a bit about house.. I said I will live here until we sell it. ****No need for this talk right now****** W - Feels so very weird and tough now that we share the house. I have been tense all Weekend. Me - Yes I understand it is tough for you. I am doing what I feel I need to do and you have chosen to be with someone else. *** first sentence was enough**** W - It feels so weird now that I am living so close to someone new. I am so safe/comfortable with you. Me - Yes I understand that must feel strange. W - I can tell you want to say other things.. Not sure what she meant but at times I guess I could have been a bit more blunt However: ****Ive said everything I needed To say**** I started walking towards hallway and said I am going shopping. W - You are sou cold (insensitive) now. Me - I know I have to be strong during this process. **** I would have just kept walking****** So now papers are lying in the kitchen, signed and ready for the mailbox...
I put my comments next to *****
The main theme is you were assigning a lot of blame to her. Yes the affair is on her but it's only a symptom.
Your journey is just continuing and it's going to take awhile to sink in what is happening,,
