Hi KitCat, love you're self-policing that those aren't good reasons to reach out and are staying dark.
Originally Posted by KitCat
To me its seems out of sight out of mind and he is able to focus more on what is the here and now for him which is OW.
As they spend time together without breaks, their "grass-is-greener" illusions of one another may vanish, and they'll see more clearly what each other offers. You often see a WWS with an AP calling their LBS to complain about their day, because they need to tell someone, but don't want to risk turning off their AP.
If you manage no-contact, he may begin to realize feelings he blamed you for are actually internal to him. My ex realized her feeling exhausted and super-messed-up were due to her disease and not me and sought medical help. I realized nobody could fill my need for validation--that could only come from within.
Again, I see your strength, and I'm loving where you are going.
Thanks for the vote of confidence.
Like I said earlier... becareful what you wish for... i have had no contact from him at all.
I'm still in a terrible struggle... I still want to text... I have this terrible need touch base and ask if his extended family are doing ok. I hope this passes soon.
Interestingly in the last week I have noticed he has taken every call I have made to him. Now most of those times we were texting and I just found it easier to call. But last Thursday I called 3 times with logistics issues and he answered every single time.
I know dont read anything into it... period. It's just speculation. Like why he feels my asking for the garage openers is a control thing.
