Limbo over, now separated but in lockdown (part 3)

[Pommy99]

May, I have been thinking the exact same thing - this is all playing nicely into his fantasy S/D scenario whereby we are best friends and do everything together (except have sex) . I don’t want to be his BFF, the only role I would consider is as his wife.

D13 is incredibly confused and upset by everything. She doesn’t understand why he said he needed time and space if he was going to turn up every day, see us chat, laugh, hug, top up the bird feeders, empty bins etc. I imagine she feels and wants the same as me and the uncertainty of his behaviours is causing her anxiety. Unfortunately, I can’t tell a 13 y.o. to have no expectations, or that most likely he won’t come back, or that we need to move on as if he wasn’t coming back. She is clinging onto the hope that one day her family unit will be restored.

I am definitely going to try hard not to see him this week. I’d like him to just stay in the car when he collects the kids, but I don’t want to come across as pushing him away or being awkward. It’s tricky.