Quick update: Again, my W texted me this morning and asked about my work situation. I told her I will be teaching from online 4 hours a day (4 periods with office hours for parents). She immediately said she would work form the house (our shared house). I didn't respond to that text. So a few minutes later she said, "or I can take our D to my parent's house." I also didn't respond to that text.
Later, she found out about my grandmother and messaged my mother. I think that was a big step for her. She is so afraid to face me and definitely afraid to face my mother. I know she is. So it is a big step for her to reach out.
Then out of the blue, her brother called me to check on me. He was very kind and said he still refuses to talk to my W because he will say things she won't like (they haven't had the nest of a relationship anyway). He said that when he spoke to his mom (where my W is staying), she had mentioned about how mad she is getting at my W for not ding anything to better herself. That she was thinking about putting a deadline on how long she can stay. Even though she hasn't yet, I am sure my W knows she can't stay forever, hence why she is trying to sneak back in the house with me.
Later, my W came to drop off my D with me. She asked about my grandmother and began to cry. Saying how sorry she is and knows a 98-year old contracting Corona is an uphill battle. She was very sincere and I know how much my W respected and loved my grandmother (my grandmother said my W is on her S#!tlist...lol). I will give her credit for seeming like she really cares.
At this point, she asked about my work again. I said I had to look into the times and get back to her. Basically, I have an hour-long meeting online (video conference) tomorrow. But I think I am going to use this meeting as a barometer to see how it goes while I am watching my D. Then I will have a better idea of what 4 hours of teaching would look like
The bottom line is still: end contact with OM, be remorseful and own your behaviors (starting to happen a little), and transparency. From there, we can hang out, then begin MC to see if we can reconcile. Otherwise, I will continue to detach and GAL as much as I can(I really am trying).
