I did it. Tonight she got the papers, and she signed immediately.
I was not super firm/stable in my voice when I was handing them over to her but said something like:
"This is what I want now. I have signed and when you sign we have 6 months till it is final."

She basically ran into the kitchen and signed (obviously adgitated/stressed). So I said arent you going to read it?
She sat down, starred at the papers and then looked up and was very sad.
I said I can talk a bit if you want but need to go shopping (of course fridge was empty after "her weekend").

Summary of convo:
W - Feels so weird.
Me - How do you mean weird?
W - Just that wierd. It has happend so fast.
Cant imagined how its been for you.
Me - Yes, very fast and often incredibly tough.
W - Why now?
Me - Been thinking about it for a while but in short, you're living with another man now.

..Talked a bit about house.. I said I will live here until we sell it.

W - Feels so very weird and tough now that we share the house. I have been tense all Weekend.
Me - Yes I understand it is tough for you. I am doing what I feel I need to do and you have chosen to be with someone else.
W - It feels so weird now that I am living so close to someone new. I am so safe/comfortable with you.
Me - Yes I understand that must feel strange.
W - I can tell you want to say other things..
Not sure what she meant but at times I guess I could have been a bit more blunt However:
I started walking towards hallway and said I am going shopping.
W - You are sou cold (insensitive) now.
Me - I know I have to be strong during this process.

So now papers are lying in the kitchen, signed and ready for the mailbox...

Last edited by Mumin; 03/29/20 09:06 PM.

Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021