WW Patience, Limbo amd Fear

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Wayfarer and Hope, thanks for stopping by. My thoughts on ego and control, and please bear with me as I think I'm not connecting fully with what you're telling me. My W and I are an example for my kids. They are learning from her that treating an H, or being treated by a woman the way my W treats me is ok. If I dont respond, the kids and W see their Dad as a doormat, and may think allowing blatant disrespect is ok. They may also think its ok to do the same to me. D4 has at times then is scolded and cries...confused because mommy did it too. I also believe most people in general are disgusted and unattracted if a man is weak and lets his W walk over him. I know youre not saying to allow my W to walk over me. Im trying to understand where the line is. Im hearing your point but not fully understanding.

My W would flip a lid if D4 rolled her eyes at her. W gets upset if D4 doesnt use full sentences when speaking with her. So I know respect is of big importance to my W and her acting like a teen to me is purposeful to make a point that she fails to do rationally with words. I get W doesn't like me right now. I feel the same with her so I know how she feels. The difference is I dont attack her or put her down. Thats not right to do to your kids' parent especially when kids are around. When W does or says something I don't like, i dont understand the comments on keeping the peace. To me that sounds like being a push over and giving up my boundaries and self respect. She might not like when I challenge her actions but wont she respect that I wont tolerate her being intolerable? What am I missing? Being looked down upon and treated like a brother or W's father doesnt feel like peace to me as the LBH.