Hi KitCat, love you're self-policing that those aren't good reasons to reach out and are staying dark.
Originally Posted by KitCat
To me its seems out of sight out of mind and he is able to focus more on what is the here and now for him which is OW.
As they spend time together without breaks, their "grass-is-greener" illusions of one another may vanish, and they'll see more clearly what each other offers. You often see a WWS with an AP calling their LBS to complain about their day, because they need to tell someone, but don't want to risk turning off their AP.
If you manage no-contact, he may begin to realize feelings he blamed you for are actually internal to him. My ex realized her feeling exhausted and super-messed-up were due to her disease and not me and sought medical help. I realized nobody could fill my need for validation--that could only come from within.
Again, I see your strength, and I'm loving where you are going.
