I have a question about "Believe nothing they say and half of what they do". My husband told me ILYBNILWY and he doesn't think he can get back there. Then he says even if he cut off his relationship with the OW he would still feel the same about me. Then a few days later he says he does have some feeling for me but he doesn't know how we could ever recover from this and he doesn't want to go back to the way things were.
So my question is this all BS? He seems to be all over the place. Is this why we don't believe anything they say? I know he's still talking to her and has a trip planned in May to go see her. I asked him not to go. He didn't respond.
That conversation took place last week by phone. He's at the house this weekend doing some repairs. We had planned on selling it before the BD. We have been getting along and working well together. I have not talked about our R. It feels like old times except we are acting like friends. I don't want to be his friend. I don't know how I should interact with him. I don't want to be too cold but I'm worried he might mistake my friendliness for forgiveness. Or he might think I don't care about the R. I don't know what I'm doing.
Me: 47 H: 45 T: 24 M:23 D23 BD #1 12/19: ILYBNILWY BD #2 2/20: I discovered H was having an affair with OW. (OW is 21 and lives in another country) Current R status: Separated.