Do you guys have you own time together doing things when the kids are in bed? I think quality family time needs to be distinguished from quality romantic time.
When you say your H is not ready to engage in A talk and how it affected you, have you been honest and forthcoming with him about your feelings about A when those feelings come up? I understand that he might not be ready to talk about it, but is listening and validating YOUR feelings too much to ask from him right now? I don’t know if that would be the right button to push, but if I were you I’d have a whole lot of build up resentment from trying to refrain myself from letting my feelings known because he is not ready. It is completely reasonable that you are still haunted by the thoughts of AP, esp with H in your face everyday.
