the WW seems to be good at engaging with her H by starting on a topic that may get his attention.
She tries every day, multiple times a day. She has learned she can text me something about our D, "like how is our D today?" I will wait a while but then finally answer, "She's good." Then immediately, after she will ask, "How are you." I ave been doing my best not to respond. It is always some message form her trying to initiate convo bit then thinks it is ok to keep in contact with the OM. I don't get it.
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She has to get it out of her system and it will take time.
In your opinion, how much time? I don't want to do this forever. I am only two months in but I can't go through the summer like this. I guess I need to detach and see what happens. I have only been somewhat good about that for a week or so..off and on before that but solid for a week.
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In my case it was the empowerment of W by OM for being the leader, the one that was looked up to, the one that wore the trousers and provided care. I'm not suggesting you try and compete with the OM - not at all, but helps to understand it.
In my scenario, he is less of a man in so many ways. He cannot provide for her. Her own friends have joked with me about how he is less good looking, not successful, etc. But obviously he did something for her...I guess I could use my imagination :-(
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Affairs are like drugs, she is an addict who will lie and cheat until she feels her plan B is disappearing and she is out of options.
That is a good way to think about it.
Thanks, OS2. I will keep on your sitch and you on mine. Thinking of you, man.
