This question arises almost on a daily basis. Some WWs like to cake eat and for some its guilt. I suspect with your W it's guilt. My gut feeling is that your W does not hate you she just doesn't want to be married to you anymore and to an extent feels guilty about it. I often tell the story that me ex mulched my entire front yard a week before she moved out.
I think one of the misnomers with DB is the timeline on the fog clearing and the WW snapping out of it. My research points to a 2-3 year process at minimum.
Take the focus completely off what she is doing and work on you.
