I'm kind of cutting off my mom and limiting contact with friends. My mom has the best intentions but any time I blow off steam about H I'm inundated with lengthy texts about contacting atty, getting a protective order, change his address to his parents so I can get him off auto insurance, blah blah blah.
I have the same issues here with my mum. I haven’t spoken to her hardly in a year because she has always treated H poorly and with disrespect. And I hate that I let that happen and didn’t stand up for him (because I don’t like confrontation with her as she would go off and cry and make out she’d done nothing wrong and that I was the bad guy for upsetting her). Since the separation 2 weeks ago, I texted her to tell her he’d left, she started replying with a few supportive messages but these quickly turned into anti-H messages, such as urging me to not let him see the children because of C-19. It was nothing to do about the children, it was about punishing him. After her multitude of texts of screenshots of govt advice and regulations (all of which I knew already) I said, I’m not stopping them seeing him END OF. I’ve never cut her off like that before, and it felt good. And I haven’t spoken to her since. I can’t bring myself to contact her because of her toxic behaviours. It’s really sad
Hang in there and if it feels better not to talk with her, then don’t put yourself through more anxiety by doing so.
M:49 H:49 T:20 M:18 D:16 D:14
EA: Feb 2019-May 2020 Separated: Mar-early Aug 2020 H asked to reconcile: Jun 2020 EA relapse: Oct/Nov 2020 Recon #2: since Nov 2020
