To second that I wasn’t talking about compassion. Like at all. F that. No need to be sweet. Just above his BS. Just being the calm one who understands normal social cues and boundaries. The one who models good for-parent ex behavior. 90% of my reasoning for being polite or completely calm or cooperative even when H was at his worst was so no matter what I’m never the bad guy. The intent doesn’t have to be angelic. But the actions should enforce that you’re the anchor and stability that your home orbits around. Not that the world revolves around him and his behavior.
