Oh Pommy I had to rush back over to clarify my comment. I didn’t mean at all that I thought you needed to be more compassionate toward him than you are already are!
I just meant to say it’s more effective DBing to not allow yourself to get too rattled and triggered by his doing things like using the gym equipment. Not out of compassion for him, but for yourself. The more you can give calm reactions to those things (while still holding your boundaries) the less ammo he has to vilify you and the more he is forced to face his own behavior. I hope that makes sense
