2 months after BD is still really early, and your emotions are all over the place day to day - we have all been there. You don't need to do anything drastic right now to push her along. It sounds like you want to take legal steps to shake her out of her affair fog. NC and GAL should be sufficient if you do it properly for sustained amount of time.
You are absolutely right. I am all over the place because it is still sinking in. I will GAL as much as I can. Thanks, LovingIt. When I have detached and stopped chasing, she tries to swoop in and hook me back. But I am not falling for it anymore. She just came by to take the dog for a walk and I remained civil but said nothing. I know it is driving her crazy.
This morning, unprompted, I received a text from her that said, " I don't want to argue I am just beyond burnt out emotionally from all of this. I understand you are burnt out too and want me to give you answers."
First off, I didn't respond and nor have I asked for any answers over the last few weeks (I did the first month or so). However, I have learned not to ask questions. Secondly, why would she send me that? To hook me again? We did have a minor argument yesterday regarding parenting time that I am trying to manage by myself M-F. I guess it doesn't matter her intentions, but I didn't respond.
