2 months after BD is still really early, and your emotions are all over the place day to day - we have all been there. You don't need to do anything drastic right now to push her along. It sounds like you want to take legal steps to shake her out of her affair fog. NC and GAL should be sufficient if you do it properly for sustained amount of time.
Use the time to get grow yourself and get your confidence back. Watch YouTube videos and read books. There are a lot of good inspirational material out there about happiness coming from within.
