I just finished reading OS2's threads and I see a lot of similarities. I just don't understand WW's that think they can continue to cake eat and hurt the person they married.
Yesterday, my W began crying when she started yelling at me about her work schedule and how she can't help me, even in her scheduled days. When she did this, she said "just file the papers then" which I said I would. She began to cry and said how overwhelmed she is. I'm sure being a nurse and dealing with this health scare has added to that but she had an A and she should be overwhelmed!
After reading OS2's thread, he began asking about filing for a D. I agree with Sandi and CWarrior on this, I'm not doing that yet because I'm not ready (plus I couldn't even if I wanted to b/c courts are closed due to the virus. But should I set up the paperwork to refinance her car? Currently, both of our vehicles are in my name and after BD I told her we need to figure out finances. It could be a good way to show her that I'm moving forward. To be fair, I am making her pay me for the payments, but putting it in her name may make it more real for her. Thoughts?
Again, yesterday I told her she knows what my expectations are, that marriage is between 2 ppl and not 3 so contact with the OM is unacceptable. I was firm and unemotional in saying this, also leading to some of her tears, yesterday. I figured being firm again in my expectations and then having paperwork ready for her to sign to refinance and title her vehicle in her name may confirm how serious I am (even though you all know I still have my weak moments).
