I do this all the time as well. I take it personally.
As you know, H went out to get dinner last night. I was in the house talking with in-laws. Apparently, H didn't take his house key and was calling me from the back yard for me to open the back door. He had about 4 bags with him and was pretty irritated when I finally heard the pounding on the back door. He was really pi$$ed. Anyway, I felt awful and apologized for not hearing. He seem to take it as if I didn't WANT to open the door for him. I realized that this was HIS perception, not mine and it was not about me. After that realization, I was able to let it go.
I also realized that these guys (as you once told me) are always going to be behind us since they dont' have the privilege of this board and all the wise folks on it guiding and helping us through our journey.
