Thanks for answers everyone! Good input.
Short update, bc at work.

Just sent W a text with her monthly "bill".
"I was wondering if I could pay less for utilities now that I dont live at home all the time? I understand if its not ok since you think we should split everything"
Really?!!

I havnt responded.
Will probably respond something like:
Its you choice not to live here.


Me: 34
Stbxw: 30
D:5 D:3
Mini bd: May/June 2019
Married: Aug 2019
BD: 6th Dec 2019
OM Confirmed: Feb 2020
March 2020: I filed for D
Waiting for D to be finalized and W to move out end of January 2021