. That’s you making your ego a priority over peace. You are just as capable of ignoring her as she is at getting under your skin. Take some personal responsibility here for the way you feel. She doesn’t control the way you feel. You do.
Yes. You should listen to her. I don’t comment on a lot of people’s threads because I don’t feel qualified to give advice most of the time, but when I feel it, I comment. I do quietly read along with a lot of threads though.
Some people seem to just be naturals at this. I think Wayfarer is one of them. This is summed up so well. If I look back on what I regret most about the way I handled my situation for at least the first half of it, it’s this. It’s making my ego a priority over peace. That may even sum up my regrets about the way I was in my marriage. This hits hard, and you should take this to heart for sure.
