I’ve been quiet dealing with our new normal but I have been checking in on you Core and honestly I’ve mostly been silent because watching you spin is painful for me. You need to get a hold of yourself. You think you know exactly what you feel and what you want but it’s super clear you are highly emotional and not 100% rational about your sitch still. Please go to my first thread. I talk a lot about knowing what it feels like with you’re truly detached enough to make a decision because I had to do it with my daughters father. It doesn’t feel desperate. It feels like taking a walk. Or opening a new book. It’s not driven by anger or fear or sadness. It’s clear and calm. Please read what LH19 says about detachment.
Next. Since I’m like the only chick who comments on here for you and I’m kind of a b**ch I need you to try to read this with an open mind. You’re wife doesn’t like you right now. She’s there. So she’s trying to be a family. She has one foot in the MR. So you can choose to accept that one foot in and actually really truly work on you and those anxious and controlling behaviors. And what ever else you feel like there’s room for improvement for. Or you can just call it. But you don’t get to walk away saying you tried everything because you didn’t. She is not required to respect you. You are not allowed to demand she give you respect. I’ve told you multiple times to check your ego and don’t talk to W like she’s a child. You are not her daddy. If you want her to keep acting like a teenager keep treating her like one. Treat her like an annoying room mate. You don’t talk to your room mate like they owe you respect. Their name is on the lease. It’s not that simple to get them out. Play nice and avoid fights. Don’t escalate. Which I’ve also told you before. You choose to engage. You choose to escalate. “Don’t you roll your eyes at me.” Is not a boundary. Not even close. That’s you making your ego a priority over peace. You are just as capable of ignoring her as she is at getting under your skin. Take some personal responsibility here for the way you feel. She doesn’t control the way you feel. You do.
