I had a little argument again with my W regarding the parenting schedule. She continues to ask me to take my D on her scheduled days due to daycare being closed and she has to work. I know I need to help, as my W is a nurse. I am at home(even though work is going to ramp up next week), and my W is trying to keep my D from being around people which leaves me to take her. I just asked my W to understand my work will get more difficult and will need some help, in which she became so angry and defensive about how stressed she is. At one point, she said, "I have to work, you have to take her, what are you going to do if I don't take her, file papers?" I replied, "sure if I have to." My wife said, "I am sure you have figured all that out already."
After that, she became angrier and began crying. I stood my ground. I said "you did this and marriage is between 2 people and not 3. I will not accept you talking to him and this will come to an end of you don't" (was that wrong to say?). I told her "I have too much self-respect for myself to live like this and you continue to ask me to help, give you money and I won't do that." She argued the money front and then I aid, "go ask your BF for your money...(I know, I shouldn't have said it).
She left in tears. I know I shouldn't have said some of the things I said, but I am angry and sad about it all. I will ot let her walk all over me like this.
Later, in good social distancing protocol, I had a bonfire outside with my friend and his wife while staying away from each other. They both talked up my importance and how I am a good catch, etc. I needed it tonight, They told me I would be okay, that I will make it through. I need that reassurance b/c I don't always believe it. I just don't understand my W and how she could be so hurtful, still. Her selfishness, her ability to blame and attack me, and her want to have me support her financially while still talking to this guy.
Thank you to Sandi, CWarrior, and Mumin. You guys are so helpful and I will never forget it. I believe in good karma and you all deserve a whopping portion of something good!
