I do not wanting him showing up with the police or anything.
When I had issues with anxiety, one of the exercises they had me do was to visualize these "catastrophic" scenarios. You often realize they aren't as catastrophic as you initially worried. Imagine: 1. He bangs on the door unannounced. "I want in NOW to get my toothbrush. It's urgent. I'll get cavities!!" 2. He didn't give you advance notice of his visit. You happen to be in your bedroom with the door closed and your headphones on. 3. He calls the police non-emergency line. 4. The police come 40min later and he says the door his front door is locked and blames you. 5. You police rev their sirens, shout, etc. 6. You open the door. You tell him, "Oh! I had my headphones on. Wish I'd known you were coming" You tell the police, "Sorry for the bother. I didn't know he was moving things out today."
Originally Posted by KitCat
What do I do when he demands to get something... I have no right to prevent him access to???
::2hrs later:: "Okay--give me a few hours' heads-up before you head over."
Originally Posted by KitCat
did say I could mail the ID... but then he continued to text and went off the deep end stating he would get x, y, z..
If your phone is set to hide alerts, it's usually be 2-4hrs before you see each message anyway.
