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In general Sundays are not a good for H, don't ask me why as I can't figure it out, but I do recognize it at this point. H seems to be more irritable, withdrawn and does more button pushing.

Sundays were never good for my H either... I think it was the end of the weekend, looking forward (not) to another week at work. He was always in some funk... we even named it after a while... don't remember what we called it maybe just his Sunday night funk... anyway, he knew he was a grump, I knew he was a grump and we left it at that.

No, your H joking about not going is no longer funny... but I think it is some kind of way to make it seem "all better." A friend of mine (whose H is home and they are working on their R) says her H has done the same thing... but now she is somewhat able to tell him that it bugs her... the other day he caught himself and said, "that's not funny, is it?"

Anyway, maybe it is just your Hs way of not trying to hurt you, but rather, trying to make light of the whole situation... not a very mature approach, but hey, the whole thing has been kind of immature, hasn't it?

Hang in there, girlfriend... keep making him feel special. Your time will come.

Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.