DO not write out that he is in love with her. Who he is in love with doesn't matter.
That he is a lying cheater is what matters. Write that out. I think you still have him held up as some ideal, something to be desired. He is not.
I think telling myself that not only does he feel he does NOT love me and loves her --- is my way of accepting the situation??? At least that is what I thought. Accepting the current reality?
And, if I like many people who come here are struggling in the Ms and hoping for recon isn't it more like he is nothing to be desired right now?
Or, is the principle he will never change. He will never notice my absence or have regret? I know that he will never come back unless he fears he has lost me even at that?
I believe you gave your W a timeline... a frame in which things had to change or else?
My timeline is one year. When the legal s is over if he hasn't had that wake up call I will know to move on. Until then I am trying my best to drop the rope.
