A few more thoughts about what to expect her "contacts" to look like. I think the more common form that seem to come out of nowhere from the wishy-wash WW is something like......"Hope you have a good day"........"How are you"......"Thinking about you"........"Hi"......etc. If you've ever been fishing, you know a nibble from a full on hook-in-the mouth. Well, whenever a WW sends a text that is similar these, they are nothing but a nibble. She's not really offering anything you can grasp, and it plays on mind, wondering what it means. Does she want to get back together, does she want to talk, see you'll respond, etc? She wants to see you respond, but it's not b/c she cares or is even interested in anything more......but to see if you are still her backup plan.
I can almost hear you asking, "But if I don't respond, won't she think I'm not interested?" If you are lucky, that's what she'll think. B/c things work backward in the WW head. By that, I mean the actions that seem logical to use with your W......don't work with Waywards. She's a different girl now. That's not to say she'll never change back, but if you really want her, then you need to strongly consider reading all the links that are listed at the bottom of page 1 on Sandi's Rules. Other posters were interacting throughout the threads, so don't get distracted. I did answer some of them directly, but for the most part, I tried to write as if I were addressing a group about the WW mindset.
Back to your question what to do if she contacts you. I suggest no response if she texts or emails these little nibbles. Considering she dumped you again, you should really ignore these insignificant nibbles. Don't play the nice-guy who is afraid he'll appear rude to his WW. If she reacts negatively to no response, like saying, "Fine! Be a jerk!" If she has an angry reaction, due to you not pouncing on the first few peeps from her........mark it down, she is not ready for you to go any further. She is playing you. The WW has to think her H is truly not interested in her. How does this work? Well, I talk a little about it in my previous post, and more about it the WW threads. You need to remember she is not the loving, sweet girl you fell in love with. At least, I hope she was a loving W back then. She's changed and she wants what she can't have. She took you for granted, took your help for granted, and she didn't give of herself which is normally required in a long term relationship. The love, in this MR, became one-sided. So, she becomes attracted to another guy, and away she goes. If that A fails, she may shop around for OM#2, b/c her wayward mindset has not changed. Until it changes, her disrespect & rebellion will be primary issues. Anger, b/c her jilted H doesn't jump when she snaps her fingers (text a little hello) is only one example demonstrating how illogical and out of balance she is. You really do have to be the man hard to get, unless you want to go through this past. She has to be the one who pursues you, and for a long time. Else, it's just games for her. Maybe I need to exchange "pursue" to "showing eagerness", b/c a lot of LBH's don't see what we mean as pursuit. Even if she should initiate a phone call, don't sound thrilled to death to hear from her and jump at the chance of having dinner again. She will see it as eagerness, and she'll pull back again.
The WW feels everything is about her. It's unbelievable how much false pride she has, and will exhibit often. And no matter how long it's been since you've gone dark or had the last contact, you must not jump on the nibbles. You must not worry you'll lose an opportunity for reconciliation. Trust me when I tell you that you cannot win her back by showing eagerness. She is a liar, cheater, and has betrayed your trust in the worst way. She won't respect you being eager to interact with her, considering how awful she's treated you. As long as she feels she has you in the palm of her hand.........then you won't be her primary choice. You are too easy for her to get back, so she's not interested. That's how waywards work!
Do you want her in & out of your life, if she's not committed? If she's not serious, and doesn't know what she really wants, and repeatedly discards you like yesterdays newspaper? No, but you are probably thinking you could get her to slowly change her mind.....if she would come home. I strongly recommend you not live with her until she shows serious signs of remorse, seeking your forgiveness, is pleading for another chance, and you can see a humble heart in her........(which some WW's can fool the eager H with tears. He needs to wait for her ugly face cry!) As long as she has any form of contact with OM, her feelings will be fickle.
Maybe you've read some about "letting her go". You have to let go of your fear of losing her and never getting her back again. WW's can sense fear in the LBH, so it works against him. I encourage you to work on your self confidence. The one thing a WW respects is strength. That's it. She may not like you, and she may get mad.......but if she sees male confidence & your self-respect.......she's attracted to it, b/c that's how she is naturally wired as a woman.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
If she reacts negatively to no response, like saying, "Fine! Be a jerk!" If she has an angry reaction, due to you not pouncing on the first few peeps from her........mark it down, she is not ready for you to go any further. She is playing you. The WW has to think her H is truly not 
As long as she feels she has you in the palm of her hand.........then you won't be her primary choice. You are too easy for her to get back, so she's not interested. That's how waywards work! 
