I wouldn’t meet with her I would either sit tight or have her served.
+1. No need to "mention" D in an R talk, hoping for a reaction. If you're not ready for D, sit tight. If you are ready--and that's a consistent feeling everyday for at least a week or two--go ahead and serve her. There's often the urge to "do something", even when the only identified actions are harmful.
Sorry this is happening to you. Sounds like a hard week.
