First, thank you for all of your help. I know it seems like I am not taking your advice but in fact, I am. I have not acted on ANYTHING without coming here first. Being who I am, I analyze everything and hope that I will hear what I want to hear from you. Obviously, I know what I need to do. I just need to do it. And to an extent, I am by following your advice.
Last night, my W FaceTimed with my D. Earlier that day, we texted about logistics for the following day (today) and how I would drop my D off with her in the morning. During FaceTime last night, my W said to my D "I will pick you up after work" at which point I interrupted and said, "I thought it was the morning?, I need to work tomorrow.". She immediately blew up and said, "you think I have a choice to work, what do you want me to do." Against all of the advice, I argued for a minute about having to communicate. She is to have my D today and intentionally didn't tell me to get me angry. This is how she is getting back at me for kicking her out 3 days ago and going silent. Manipulate Manipulate. Manipulate. She has been telling me she was working from home this week. I made the decision that when she works from home (parents house), and she is scheduled to have my D, she takes her. When she has to go to the office, I will help her. So by telling me that she was working from home this week, and then changing the plans at 8:30 last night without telling me, she did it to get back at me for kicking her out.
After arguing for a minute on FaceTime, I hung up on her because she was starting to yell (which by the way she started yelling about "having to work" while talking to my daughter...I quickly grabbed the phone and said stop yelling in front of our D). After the call, I did text after explaining that I have to bring my D to the high school where I work because I am required to go in to get materials. She didn't like that because of Corona.
For the past two weeks, my school (all schools) have been closed. They announced yesterday they will now be closed until May 7th. Due to that, they are ramping up online learning and the way it's looking it will unfold, my job will be harder than ever before. Online chat rooms, live video lessons, etc. How the heck am I going to do that while watching a 3-year-old by myself? It is stressing me out. 3-year-olds are not independent in any way and my W just assumes I will take care of her every day. I know she doesn't have a choice but I can't lose my job. When I explained this briefly in a text after the FaceTime argument, she said: "we will have to come up with a better plan." I guarantee her plan is to work from my house to help. I know it isn't recommended, aI know it isn't smart, but how am I going to be on camera for 4-6 hours a day, talking to students, parents, etc, while doing this by myself. This is going to get harder....
I don't want to have her work from my house. I want her back only when she stops being wayward. But these times are very difficult with everything that is happening and the experts say get ready for this to carry on through the summer. I cannot be a full-time employee and a full-time dad at the same time. I get 5-minute spurts to get something done. Not 4-6 hours.
Sorry, that was my vent after a brief argument with her and the fact she totally set me up today.
