No, you still haven't figured it out. You didn't ruin it b/c you pursued after the dinner. You ruined it when you called the first time to ask her out to dinner. That is pursuit. Two months of darkness wasted. What made you think it was fine to call her for no reason and ask her out? Nothing has changed for her, or she would have been chasing you down, begging you to take her back.
I'm sorry to tell you that when #4 happens.........then the outcome of #5 is classic. But, if you don't learn your REAL mistake and WHEN you made it, then you probably repeat it and have the same outcome. You NEVER pursue a wife who has chosen another guy over you! You NEVER beg & plead with a WW!
What next? Well, you go dark and wait till hell freezes over before you initiate anymore contact with her.
Thanks Sandi. OK, I understand your viewpoint. But what do I do if she does contact me again after going dark? Do I respond and engage? Ignore her? It would be good to know what to do beforehand, as these things can move very quickly.
