Time to file? (Thanks BenB - part 2)

[Mumin]

First. THAAAAANK YOU to everyone! These last posts made a previously bad day into a good day!
Going to bed happy thanks to you guys!
Huge appreciation to you Sandi that you came by and for getting your head around my sitch!

Second, This is not my last post. I should have written previous instead of last.
My aim is that this is still just the beginning for me at DB.

So to your comments and questions:
Sandi I think you and I posted simultaneously so there was some recent stuff added but I got some good advice already.

I am not certain I am very sensitive but I am far into NGS, I can be naive and I have high integrity.
I have as you say been way too helpful and almost father-like towards my W. STUPID when I look back. ITs bad for both of us...
I have read your view on WW's on many other threads (newcomer with WW are really Awesome!) and I cant say that I think it will ever get old. They are so irrational and self-centered that it is very hard to grasp.

You can't make it easy for her to get you back. She has to work very hard to restore what she destroyed.

The first thing that would have to happen is her to quit her job. (OM is co-worker like so many other)

Someone said, "You have to take away her Plan B", which I thought was a good answer. Family activity, hanging out together, having long phone chats, eating together, attending events together, etc., is all Plan B for her. It doesn't draw her closer, like a lot of LBH's want to believe.

This should go in some checklist and be added to. I will remember it for future boundaries.

I will be doing what is best for me and the kids!
(W missed D5's ballet for like the 4th time in two months and gave the kids ONLY rice for dinner the other day)

So about the D. I was about to print everything tonight but I am out of toner...
What does "have her served" actually mean?
The way I interpret it, my version of this would be option 1.
Just leave the papers on kitchen counter ready for her to sign.
Very good points that I dont need to talk that much.
At some point we will have to handle Where to live but that is definitely months down the road given Corona and 6 month waiting period.

Many ppl here have talked about an asset list. Whats your take in this, should I create one and give that to her as well?