Laurie, I was thinking about you before I came here and you visited me!
Quote: Yes, there is a lesson for your husband to learn, but what is yours?
I know what my lesson is: I need to turn to the Lord for my needs and to put my expectations in the Lord. This night thing, the not knowing, the worrying that I think will make things happen is NOT working nor should I be trying to control my world this way. The anxiety is fear and if I can turn to the Lord rather to the anxiety, I will be okay. It is something I need to learn and the way for me to learn right now is for my H to stay out all night..becuase nights are the problem. The Lord IS testing ME, saying to me you cannot control the circumstances only I have that power, the worrying, anxiety is getting you know where--put your trust in Me. And last night that is what I did and it did seem to work. Right now it's not comfortable, to become anxious is a more natural tendency, but I believe I can make the change as the peace I felt at some points last night was wonderful, when I was able to let go. This is my less to learn.
Quote: The last one where he doesn't come home, don't ask him any questions about it, but maybe what the Lord wants you to do is start to pray for both of them when this happens.
I do pray so this is good then. I did this last night and this morning. But isn't it the little to late scenario. I should be praying for H and OW a lot more than I do lately. I've been praying more for myself and for the lessons I need to learn, but intermittently for H, OW and S's and reading the bible.
Quote: Okay, the one where he keeps telling you about him moving. Basically you know that the next time you need to basically tell him that you do not want him to move or to get a divorce. That you love him and you always have. That you have forgiven him for the things that he has done but he must stop putting this over your head. That if that is what he wants, then he has to make the choice. That he is free to do what he wants to do. That you know that you can live without him, but you choose not too. Then set him free in word and action
I have been praying on this answer also and what is coming to me is similar to what you have posted and will say this next time or maybe sooner. I don't think my H feels like he needs to BE forgiven for anything at this point. I think I said this to him not too long ago and he looked at me like I was crazy.
Quote: Well, what about this relationship with him and this OW. What fruit is it producing? Is it producing the fruit of the Lord? No, it is not. So why should it continue? Use the word to pray for your husband and the OW. Use the promises of the Lord.
Take the scripture from the Bible and use it as your prayer. Like the one about putting thorn bushes in your husbands path so that the only path he can walk on is the one that is back to you. Yes, you can not change their free will and God doesn't change ours, but he does put obstacles in our way that cause us to do the purposes that he has for us. Do you understand what I'm saying?
That I should pray for the Lord to help my H find his way, to see that OW is not the answer to his problems--that she is nothing really. And to throw a few thorn bushes in here and there to trip him up once in awhile.
