By the end of the 3rd session, I do feel like there was progress. My W will be more open and honest in MC than she will be with me. Mainly, that is due to her becoming so angry and defensive anytime she feels cornered (which is probably all the time with the guilt she has). That is why oi thought it might be good to go back. But I guess I am grasping for straws.
I repeat, do NOT try to get her to see MC before she goes NC with OM and is asking you about reconciling.
You are grasping at straws b/c you want MC to "fix" your W's waywardness. It won't, IMHO.
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It is so hard to be the only adult in my house.
I'll tell you the same thing some You Tubers were saying about Prince Harry, "Suck it up, Buttercup".
Seriously, it is a little hard for me to feel sorry for the millennial generation being stuck at home, b/c they still have electricity, running water, indoor plumbing, heat/air, and all their technology devices to keep them entertained. Once you go without all these luxuries for two or three weeks straight, and you can't get outside to drive around or to get food..................yeah, just saying.
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I am used to having my best friend (W) here to talk to. I realize she isn't my best friend anymore, but she is still friendly as long as we don't talk about the A.
This thinking will cause you to go all melty-man, and you'll break all those "boundaries" you wanted to email her.
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It makes me want to reach out to my W and ask her to hang here as a family for a few hours. I know you would advise against it, and so far I haven't even spoken to her since I kicked her out. But if this goes on for weeks or months I don't know if I can make it.
Would it be detrimental to allow her to hangout her during the day, go home at night? She has her parents (who she lives with) to speak to. I have no one.
(SMACK!!!) Snap out of it! You'll never back up your own word on where you stand, thinking like this! Now, stop throwing yourself a pity party, and start working out, turn on some rock & roll, and dance with your little girl.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
Once you go without all these luxuries for two or three weeks straight, and you can't get outside to drive around or to get food..................yeah, just saying.
