In most situations, there's more than one good way to handle them. Your plan to have your wife over during daytimes because you're lonely seems clearly bad--if you count up how many responses you've gotten "pro" vs. "con" the consensus here is clearly against it. It comes from a place of emotional weakness ("Can't handle being alone.."), it undermines the boundary you just set, and it doesn't give her a chance to miss you.
You would be shooting yourself in the foot.
Originally Posted by kto626
The day just started and I am feeling adult deprived!
If you can lean into the pain, you'll become a stronger, happier kto626 with better chances of reconciling. Most of us have been in *exactly* this situation. We can help. I went through the same struggle just over a month ago. My ex had a strong social circle and I literally had zero friends to call or talk to. In just over a month alone I was leading two weekly hikes with 6-10' social distance, my last Facebook post got 9 comments, and I have a friend I talk to for 30-60 minutes every couple days. I also no longer dread an evening alone and enjoy the freedom and have resurrected my guitar.
Zoom and other remote sessions with friends are becoming popular. An acquaintance is doing board games, movies, happy hour, and karaoke over webchat. My ex (reconciling!!) is doing a chat where her and her friends are all having a glass of wine together (as they used to do in restaurants) over webchat.
Many are feeling stir-crazy, so this may even be an ideal time to deepen friendships.
