So, she asked me last night when I got home, what she was supposed to do with the bills I gave her. She asked if she was supposed to pay me for the insurance. I just said, "You said you wanted the information for that information." She said, "Yeah, I did. What about the internet and satellite bills?" I said, "Those are utilities, so I included them." She said, "In that case, we'll (as if we're in this together) probably go without the satellite and have to just use the antenna (we don't have one, and the satellite bill is relatively small).
Looked closer at her statements again, and both credit cards have their highest balances right now. A total of close to $700. Her bank accounts are empty, her retirement portfolio isn't very robust, and I'm sure quite a bit lower than what I'm seeing in these statements considering the current situation (but no withdrawals from retirement - at least in the 6 months I have). She just purchased the van we were leasing, and her payments will be about $100 more a month than they were before.
And somehow she is supposed to pay me $20k as part of splitting our assets. Maybe this is why she doesn't seem to want or expect me to leave the house after the divorce. She wants time to pay that off, and would probably ask me to start paying the utilities again as a condition of staying.
I'm supposed to discuss things with my lawyer today. I still want to see the checking account statements, and need to discuss assets within the house (some have significant value - both monetary and personal). I'll try to do that this evening.
I'm not sure how she's put herself in this position considering her income. She just tries to take everything on herself and is too stubborn to ask for help or realize the partnership we were in. Now the reality is hitting pretty hard, but I'm not sure she's catching on...at all.
Her mood has not been great. It seems to have regressed quite a bit since I have stopped texting her at all, and haven't initiated any conversations, even mundane ones. She has stopped texting me or starting anything either, and all that's talked about is our daughter. Quite a bit different/worse than what was going on just before I came here. She's still not being negative all the time, like she used to be, and she does talk me up/defend me to our daughter, but our interaction is not good.
It was kind of what I was afraid of. If I became completely distant, so would she.
